Turn it upside down

A little over a week ago one of my NLP (neuro linguistic programming) group of friends came across a web site that was entitled "The 7 Steps to Highly Effective Hating!"
They had found it at the web site: http://www.pe2000.com/NLP_model_hatred.htm

The seven steps are:
Step 1. Look through your own eyes only
Step 2. Keep it simple with 'black-and-white' thinking
Step 3. Avoid being objective
Step 4. Carefully select your evidence
Step 5. Avoid critical thinking
Step 6. Talk! Don't listen!
Step 7. Goad them into over-reacting

Now this all looks like a bit of fun, and it is, but how many of us take some or all of these steps until we realise that we are doing it! I am commited to being aware but there are times I catch myself doing one of the hating steps. Stay aware and stop as soon as you notice yourself taking any of the above steps.

As a positive exercise our NLP group decided we could go through the above steps and turn the whole thing on its head and therefore come up with "The 7 Steps to Highly Effective Loving!"

I made notes at the time and have since mislaid them, so I will do this from memory.

Step 1. Look at the world through others eyes as often as you can.
Step 2. Think wisely and allow yourself to see all sides.
Step 3. Work at being objective and seeing things through others perspectives.
Step 4. Select from a broad range of evidence.
Step 5. Allow your thoughts to be swayed by others point of view.
Step 6. Listen and find out what others are thinking and meaning.
Step 7. Ask honest and open questions in a non judgmental way.

I think you can see how this simple exercise can direct us toward a better way of living.

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