Here's one of my favourite messages

Instead of saying to yourself "WHAT IF" (it rains, he or she doesn't like me, I get it wrong etc) try saying "SO WHAT" for a change. See how different that makes you feel about your worries.

Today read this, tomorrow do it.

A few years ago I used to wake up in the morning and very soon I would be worrying how I would be dealing with 'awkward' people and situations as I perceived them. I would run negative scenarios through my head, what would go wrong, how would I deal with it? Would the people I had difficulties with personally get in the way of the resolution I wanted? All this thinking really achieved was to put me in a negative state for most of the day, irrespective of what actually happened in my day.
Think negative things can happen in your day and you are probably right.
Think positive things can happen in your day and you are probably right.
I now know what is the right way to start my day.
I wake up and now think what can I do today to make things better. That thought is so empowering. I feel more refreshed immediately. Sure people do things I don't understand but that no longer makes me think there is something wrong with them. Anyway, now I can ask, instead of making something up in my head and letting that control my feelings.
My request to you the next time you wake up is to ask what can I do today to make things better and see how that transforms your day.

Good one liners to get you thinking

If you don't decide what to do for yourself someone else will do it for you.


Live in your own sunshine and not is someone else's shadow.


Do something different. If you do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got.


Before you put someone else right, put yourself right first.


Anger is not so much about what someone or something has been done to you, but is more about what you are doing to yourself.


If you don't take responsibility for yourself who else is going to?

Today ='s right now

A while ago if you had suggested to me that before I start my day I would meditate and do some breathing exercises I may have snapped saying something like "I haven't got time for that sort of stuff".

Thankfully my mind now has the flexibility to move on from that kind of limiting thinking and I now do things that are different if I think they are useful.

My thought for today to share with you is that during today something will happen and your initial response will be the same as it has been for many years. This time STOP and think if this is in fact the right response and come up with a different action.

A really simple example is where a workmate offers to get you a coffee, perhaps as they always do, and they also expect the same response from you. This time say, and, or do, something different. Surprise yourself and your work colleague.

I know it is a little thing but it shows you how to just pause, take stock and reflect on what's being asked of you. Respond having thought what you really want and not what the other person may be wanting.

Where to start?

Right here and now. No preparation is necessary. Find some time to be on your own. It's not a lonely place to be.
How do you feel right now? Good, great, rubbish, 'no idea', ok? Be honest with yourself. Find out what is going on in you. How are you feeling, thinking and how are you physically?
We are Mind Body and Soul. You will need to know all parts of you.

Welcome to my blog "The Very Best Of You".

It is about time I started helping people to realise their own potential and where their true happiness lies. Today is the day I commit to offering you the information to enable you to become fully engaged with the human race.

It is time for you to stand up and out and be the person you know you can be. Fine words I hear you say. So how do I do that you ask? Trust me you can.

Suspend you own disbelief for a while, open your heart and mind and start accepting yourself, becoming aware of what you really feel and start stripping away set responses that have not always served you well.

It's time to be good to yourself!